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Perfectionism and Balance 




Notice how the symbol representing Yin and Yang has a curved line between the two opposite, yet interrelated, energies in order to show that there is always an ebb and flow of one energy into the next. We do not see a perfectly straight line separating black from white which would suggest that life is either always one way or always the other. 


The ebb and flow of life tends not to be the issue. It's our perception that the more shadowy side of life is problematic. In rhythm with nature, living beings are cyclical, though we tend to resist some of the cycles that seem less desirable. For example, it seems that it's much more socially acceptable to be contending with anxiety than with depression. Neither state is worse than the other, but both are indications of a state of imbalance inside, perhaps a necessary one. And one that can be dealt with by approaching health holistically. Body + Mind. Read more about this under Depth Analysis.
Know thyself.

Movement

Exercise is not a one size fits all thing. Some people need exercise to be vigorous and others need a more gentle practice. Neither is the superior form of movement, what is important is that you are finding something that fits with you. This preference can also change day to day. Or, for example, may change with the stage of a woman's cycle.  One day running three miles can feel very authentic, and other days yoga may be more like it. Rather than setting a goal like “I am going to run 3 miles everyday,” schedule out time to do something active for 30 minutes a day and see what you are feeling. Pay attention to your body, if it is telling you not do do something, don’t do it. Simply play to what you like and get creative. The goal is to move and breathe. Get outside or get together. Whatever you need.

Worry

Generally, we tend to either worry about something that has already happened or something that has never happened. The entire nature of worry is not only useless, it is destructive to our health and wellbeing - yet it often consumes us. A good technique is to acknowledge our fear and make a conscious choice to be in the present moment and to show gratitude for what is, instead. If you are worried about the outcome of an effort you have put forth at work, change the recording from "What if nobody likes my work & I bombed it?" to "I give thanks that my work will be well received, and if it isn't, that I will be open to the constructive feedback I get." 

As Thich Nhat Hanh says “If we can acknowledge our fear, we can realize that right now we are ok. Right now, today, we are still alive, our bodies are working marvelously. Our eyes can still see the beautiful sky. Our ears can still hear the voices of our loved ones.”

Libido

Libido? Did we just say that? Yes we did. It is not just for sex anymore. Consider libido your lust for life, not just for another person. What makes you excited to be alive? What hobbies do you need to reconnect with?

Some people love their job, others do it just to pay the bills - and that's okay. Some people prefer to keep their source of income separate from their source of joy. But, if you are of the all-work-no-play variety, then ask yourself how you can cultivate a sense of libido in your life. How does it look? Do you sign up for an art class, a singing group or an intramural sports team? Do you go out to discover culture or nature on the weekends? Explore what this looks like for you and incorporate it into your life by setting aside time for your newfound source of libido.

Depth Work

Socrates said that the examined life is the only life worth living. And we just might agree. 

Sometimes life is humming along just fine, but we'd like to scratch at the surface of our experiences to see what meaning might lurk beneath. Sometimes we need unbiased support as we process through a difficulty, a crisis or grief. Maybe you are having trouble living by your values or a substance seems more in control of your life than you do. There are so many reasons that depth work can be valuable. Pursue it in a way that works for you i.e. journaling, expression through art, dream analysis, and, perhaps the most effective way to do do depth work, talk therapy.  

Sleep

Sleep should be a priority. It has become far too marginalized in our culture of busyness. Being too busy to sleep has become something we are proud of rather than a pattern we look to change.

Sleep is a natural healing process, not a luxury. When we sleep our body does repair work at a cellular level, the brain organizes what it has learned and our psyche can reset to take another day of experiences.
If you tend to have a hard time sleeping, the following are some simple modifications that can make a huge difference.
  • Turn all screens off at least an hour (preferably 2) before bed. This includes phones, TVs, computers, electronic notebooks and even reading on backlit devices. 
  • Use lamps only (not overhead lights) after dinner. 
  • If you do wake up in the middle of the night, do not look at the time. Stay calm, accept that you are awake and assess if you need a handful of nuts to balance a dip in your blood sugar or if a gratitude practice might feel calming. 
  • Apply calming essential oils (such as lavender) before bed.
  • Avoid stressful conversations at night. Save them for the light of day when you can better handle a spike in your stress hormones.
  • Try to go to bed and wake up at the same time every day. 

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