Summer vacation is winding down, and by now we’ve all just adjusted into the summer schedule, but the stress of an upcoming school year (if it’s actually happening) is on the horizon. Sprinkle in the normal stress of parenting PLUS work, and everything in between and it gets so overwhelming. Parents take a moment to look and think about some of these things that may pop up for us when communicating with our children. We urge you to concentrate more on the present; on the moments that are happening in front of our eyes. Your kids are probably enjoying the summer break, and part of that happiness exists because they are not projecting what’s to happen in the future. While it’s your job to parent and (the no so fun part) worry, you can also take some notes from your child’s summer mindset and development. Here are some common worries that parents we may all face in this upcoming school year:
Parent worries: How can we help our kids talk about and help with their anxieties? Parents lets try some of these:
Parent Worries: I want to help my kid be more confident, as they tend to have poor self-image of themselves?
Parents lets think about this: How you talk to yourself matters – both for your own state of mind and well-being, and also for anyone else who may be listening. We tend to be our own harshest critic, and while we tend to be so good for being the cheerleader for someone we care about, we tend to forget to do that for ourselves. So lets try some of these:
Parents worries: I want my child to be productive, so that they are not wasting their time.
Parents lets think about this: When we are faced with free time, a lot of us have a tendency to feel like we need to fill it – that we need to be productive, all the time! That if we’re not engaged in a meaningful activity, that somehow the time is wasted. It keeps us busy, but sometimes it’s just an illusion of productivity, and can lead to burnout. Now lets try some of these:
Parent Worries: Have you ever walked away from correcting your child and thought “why did I respond that way? That should have gone better.” Parent fails are just opportunities to repair.
Parents lets think about this: Sometimes parents do not respond in the best way to frustrating behaviors. Instead of shaming yourself, realize where this is coming from and repair the rupture you he with your child. We’re you stressed? Scared? Didn’t know what to do ? Now let’s try this:
And if you are thinking, “I’m still stuck and need some more guidance?” DM us. We’ve got mindfulness coaches and therapists who can help you get the tools you and your child need to learn these new skills.
Written by The Center for HAS Team Member Jia Wong